The first thing is to sort out what needs to be done. I’ve put everything into categories.
1. Faults That Need Fixing
2. Things to Do
3. Things Not to Do
4. Things That Need to be Done
5. Things I Want to Do
This week, let’s discuss #1: Faults That Need Fixing.
One overarching issue is a lack of willpower. I’m not sure how that happened, because when I was little I was very determined and would work hard to succeed at things. Granted, the things I wanted to succeed at involved getting all the way across the monkey bars without falling, racing faster than my brother, and getting 100% on every spelling test, but still, at one point in my life I didn’t mind working really hard. By the time I hit adolescence that was all gone, but I think things really changed when I started living by myself and realized I was the boss of me. No accountability = no worky.
Another issue is distraction. Again, when I was younger I had laser focus. I know what happened to that, though.
I’m pretty sure some of these are made up. The one with the e is definitely not a real browser.
Other faults include: selfishness, complaining, narcissism, spending too much money, self-indulgence, a tendency toward unkindness, complaining, and cynicism, impatience, and still watching Criminal Minds. Also probably a hundred other ones I don’t know about because I’m selfish and narcissistic.
So how do we solve all of that? Let’s turn to the March sisters.
Willpower: “…you will find that all play and no work is as bad as all work and no play.” (Little Women)
Distraction: “Work is wholesome, and there is plenty for everyone. It keeps us from ennui and mischief, is good for health and spirits, and gives us a sense of power and independence better than money or fashion.” (Little Women)
Selfishness: “We can’t do much, but we can make our little sacrifices, and ought to do it gladly.” (Little Women)
Narcissism: “You have a good many little gifts and virtues, but there is no need of parading them, for conceit spoils the finest genius. There is not much danger that real talent or goodness will be overlooked long, and even if it is, the consciousness of possessing and using it well should satisfy one, and the great charm of all power is modesty.” (Little Women)
Spending too much money: “These bills were so many and so large that he was startled and dismayed; for, as Mr. Bhaer had wisely predicted, he knew little about the value of money…Borrow he would not, nor beg. What could he do? For these appalling bills must be paid, and the lessons go on; or his journey was an ignominious failure. (Jo’s Boys)
Self-indulgence: Basically, Stuffy. He was never cured of his love of food, people! He died suddenly of apoplexy after a public dinner! Stuffy is a horror story. (Little Men and Jo’s Boys)
Unkindness, complaining, and cynicism: “He never loses patience – never doubts or complains – but always hopes, and works and waits so cheerfully that one is ashamed to do otherwise before him.” (Little Women)
Impatience: The entire chapter where Jo is a total asshole to her aunt and her aunt’s friend and so they decide to take Amy to Europe instead.
Bad television: I suspect the March sisters wouldn’t own a television, to be honest.
So all I have to do is work, not talk about how awesome I am, stop spending money, stop eating so much, be cheerful and uncomplaining, and never be mean to any aunts who might want to take me to Europe. Easy peasy. Week one, BAM.
Things to do this week
Call scary people (dentist, financial aid, IRS)
Finish Spanish project
Write 500 words each day
Until next week, when we discuss Things to Do (in general)